Moving Through Your Dating Anxiety
Have you ever felt so nervous before a date that you didn’t know if you could even show up?
Or maybe you planned your entire date night outfit around the fact that you can’t stop sweating when you meet someone?
Or maybe you keep wondering if he’s going to like you, think your job sucks, or that the hobby you’re passionate about is just…weird?
Then you’re in luck! Today’s guest, Maria Ganowski, helps anxious millennials self-heal their anxiety through mindset, movement and ugly self-care.
Maria is going to walk us through so many examples and ways to move through our anxiety in a new way.
Highlights include:
How anxiety shows up before, during and after a date.
Anxiety affecting our lives outside of dating
Recognizing and applying mindset shifts
Our personal stories of anxiety when dating
Plus, Maria shares 10 tips how to handle anxiety
You can find Maria on Instagram @the.empowered.millennial and on TikTok @theempoweredmillennial.
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Molly Connolly (00:00.846)
I'm excited to have Maria Ganowski joining me on the podcast today. She helps anxious millennials self -heal their anxiety through mindset, movement, and ugly self -care. We met last November in a mini -mind and have kept in touch as well as celebrate each other's wins. So welcome to the show, lady. Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here. my gosh. It's, this is something that I was so excited with when I first decided to start this podcast. It was like, I know I want to have Maria on and
When I polled my audience about a few different topics that they would love to hear about, let alone maybe have a guest on, this was an area that even a past client was like, please bring an anxiety and dating expert or someone that knows about anxiety and how it affects her life. And I was like, perfect. I actually have someone that I could chat with. So that's cool. Super pumped to have you here. So tell the ladies a little bit more about you.
Yeah, so I am a self healing, self development mentor, mainly around mindset for women with anxiety. And I dealt with anxiety myself, daily anxiety for years. And I went on my own self care journey. And I realized that along the way, healing requires a lot more than just talk therapy, right? Like I was in therapy myself, and I was noticing some changes. But the biggest
change happened in my life and in me when I started doing the work myself outside of my therapist's office, like in my own life. So now I teach millennial women how to use tools like mindset shifting, nervous system regulation, and just daily lifestyle changes that they can make to gain a sense of control over their anxiety and in doing so their entire life again. my gosh, I love that. I think a lot of women
do struggle with a variety of anxious moments throughout their life and their day, especially during transitions. So can you talk a little bit more about how you got started specifically working with millennials with anxiety? I know you said you were doing it for yourself, but when were you like, this is what I want to do to help other women or help other millennials? Yeah. So I got to this point and I...
Molly Connolly (02:19.662)
I don't know what sparked it, but I just had this moment of like, who the hell am I? Like, I don't have, I don't consider myself an anxious person anymore. Like, I don't remember the last time I was like consistently struggling. And it was that moment where I kind of realized how powerful all the work that I was doing was. And I, it was just so often where I was hearing from friends or from family members or on social media, specifically millennials talking,
about anxiety or joking about their anxiety or, you know, the self -deprecating humor about anxiety and like, all this talk about how anxiety is horrible, how anxiety sucks, how people are fighting anxiety, how it's such a struggle. And I was like, I know the answers, like I need to help these people. Like, I've done it myself. And so yeah, my sister is in the coaching space. And I had at this point worked with tons of coaches.
in a lot of different areas and mindset and communication, business coaches, manifestation, all different coaches. So I was very familiar with the space. And so I started with just an Instagram. And then I just started sharing tips and value and things like that. And people were resonating with it. And so I was like, you know what, I'm going to make this official. I'm going to make
register my LLC and make this a coaching business. And I just started, I just started from the Instagram and then started creating some offers. And yeah, that's how I got into it. that's fantastic. Especially when it's like the people around you are not only like speaking the language that you're like, I know I can help you not like fix you, but like help you get over something. Yeah. It's always one of those moments. Like, do you really
Would you pay for it? And most of the time they're like, well, and then eventually when they hear all the value that you're giving them, like, yeah, I definitely need this for myself. So now when we think about it with having your own experience and let's say it's a, you know, like the relationship with anxiety, how does dating anxiety look like, whether that's like the physical symptoms or the anxious thoughts or all combined.
Molly Connolly (04:38.03)
Yeah, so it really depends on the person. I always say this in my content and with my clients, everyone is different. So anxiety could show up in a lot of different ways. Mainly, it's how you feel in your body, right? Some people, it's like biting their nails. Some people, it's like fidgeting with their hair. Some people, it's like way worse. It's like their chest feels really tight or they have migraines, right? Like things like that. As far as like thoughts with dating, it could be like, I'm not good enough.
What if they don't like the way that I look? What if I sound weird? What if I'm clumsy, right? Like all these like different thoughts that like, yeah, some of that can happen, but it shouldn't be holding you back as much as it does for a lot of people. Yeah, I think about how that is almost just like pattern thoughts that just become...
How do I even put it? It's just becomes end up being like almost a habit every time then when you go out on a date. So you kind of gave some really good examples, but how would we want to break that down? Like with how dating anxiety would look like before a date and then during a date and after a date so that women can definitely pinpoint that it's not like it's just me sort of thoughts or feelings or even symptoms. so they don't feel
you know, alone and can even start thinking about, you know, being aware of their anxiety during dating. Yeah. A lot of times before a date, you're talking about like physical symptoms or like, well, like a combination. Like, so even I'm thinking about me predating, I would sweat a lot, like when I was on a date. So for me, like, I'd be like, I'm going to buy a lot of deodorant. I'm like, that never fixed anything.
So I was like, I'm just gonna wear black. So I had a lot of black in my wardrobe to try to mask the nervousness, but it's like, no, I needed to address my anxiety and at the time I really didn't. So it's kind of like figuring out all of the mixture of those things. Yeah, I would become aware of like what your patterns are because like a lot of times we don't realize like,
Molly Connolly (06:53.326)
that it's something that we do have power over until we recognize like, this is something that I'm continuously doing. And maybe if I get out of this pattern, I can kind of get rid of that symptom at least like, before going on a date. But like you said, sweating is very normal. Having shallow breaths, like being nervous, like to speak in front of someone new, especially on a first date. Even like your heart pounding, you're like,
kind of in the state of like, what's gonna happen, like freaking out just because it's the unknown, you know? But yeah, those types of things show up for a lot of people, especially for a first date because it's this idea of the unknown and someone new. And a lot of this too is coming from past situations, which I focus on a lot in my content. And a lot of people don't realize that anxiety is coming from
an experience from the past that left you in the state of fight or flight, the state of like nervousness, the state where your body is basically telling you that you don't feel safe. And so it's your job to figure out how do I feel safe again? And the way to do that mainly is through your body. So things like, well, we'll get into tips later, but like, you know, when you're having, when you are sweating,
asking yourself, okay, instead of like covering this up with deodorant, like, what can I do to stop sweating? Why do I think I'm sweating? Like, what is it that I'm nervous about? Right? Like, how can I like rethink that? Or how can I make myself feel a little more safe about that situation that's causing me this, you know, feeling of tenseness or, you know, nervousness or whatever it is? Yeah.
So you gave some really good examples of that, like the before and the after, or before and during, like what are some examples? So like, let's say a woman just like, she goes for it and let's just be honest, like most of the time, like drinking covers up the nervousness, like it helps us get like, you know, liquid courage to the moment, but like the after dating and.
Molly Connolly (09:13.678)
I fell into this trap too of being like, shit, I should have never said that. Or I should have never asked this question because you just stared at me. But like, what are those feelings of anxiety after dating that you either have experienced yourself or like, can just help other women to make sure that, you know, hey, this is anxiety. Like we can work on it.
Well, one is literally just replaying every moment in your mind and like picking it apart. Kind of what you said, like, why did I say that? Did I sound stupid? Did they like that response? Like, did I react a certain way? Like all anything, any kind of reenactment of the date in your mind and you're just like picking it apart totally. Also, another thing is like, do I text them?
Are they going to text me? Like, how long do I wait to respond? Like all of that. Wow. I didn't think about those. Yeah. I mean, most of the time that is anxiety coming up, right? Because it's like, you probably had an experience in the past where it made you think, I shouldn't show that I'm too available or I shouldn't. Right. Like I'm too eager. Exactly.
You know, don't say like, Hey, I got home texts because he'll be like, I don't really care. Or does he really care? So what do I do? Yeah. Yeah. It's all those anxious thoughts coming up. Yeah. And then I'm even thinking like, if the person's having earth, the lady's having like anxious thoughts after a date, it's hard to get to sleep or it's hard to not communicate with your friends about the date. Like it's just all those next like
actions or ways that physically you're unable to relax and decompress. Yeah and yeah and that's why I always say like anxiety isn't just fixing your anxiety doesn't just help like your mindset it changes your whole life right because like you said like
Molly Connolly (11:15.502)
when you're in that state, it's affecting everything else that you're doing. Like you said, maybe you can't fall asleep. Maybe you can't eat in the morning because like you're so tense and like your body is right, like in that state of like shock or nervousness. So it affects so many different things. Yeah, I could definitely, we could go on for so many of them. Yeah. When you think about it too, like what is either a personal experience for you with dating anxiety that
women that are listening could be like, yeah, I've been there. Yeah. I would say recently went on a hinge date and his name, his name was Farrell, but I didn't know how to say his name. I didn't, I didn't know if it was like Pharrell, Farrell. I didn't know like what he was going to sound like, right? Like I had like a lot of unknown questions and I was just thinking like,
What if I say his name wrong? Like, what if I sound like an idiot? Like, what if I offend him? Right? Like these questions like that. And I did what I always do, you know, at this point, like I've been doing this work for years. So it's pretty natural for me to just like recognize right away that, okay, these are anxious thoughts. Like, how do I calm myself down? So I did some deep breaths. Again, I'll get into more like specific tips later, but
I did some deep breaths. I recognized that these, I could let go of these fears. Like I was gonna go on the date and it was gonna be two seconds of my life when I said his name or when I had to deal with that. And I was really aware of the fact that it was going to pass. It wasn't something that was gonna like hold onto me for the entire night, right? Like, and I knew that for a fact.
because I deal with anxiety all the time and I know how to deal with it and handle it and work through it. So that was definitely one experience. And let me tell you that day did not go well. Like we were on totally different, different playing fields, but it was fine. Right? Like I worked through it. I had dinner and drinks and we had an awkward like hug at the end. It was so weird, but I got in the car.
Molly Connolly (13:40.526)
And instead of doing what I used to do with like, my God, like he thinks I'm a freak or like, that was so bad. I was, I audibly laughed in the car. That is the best when you laugh after a date. I laughed out loud. Yeah. I laughed out loud in the car and I was like, my gosh, what was that? But it was like, so funny. I was kind of just like, not like a game in a bad way, but I was just there and I was just like, I'm just going to like take this for what it is.
You know, and it was like a funny memory now. Right. And it's also like you learned, okay, I mean, you already applied the lesson. Like, I think that the one thing just in dating in general is that we get hung up on the hypothetical, like one mistake that we do somehow in the date and we can't let it go. Yeah. And that's the thing where I don't feel like women might see that as like part of being anxious.
They just like, I'm a weird, crazy woman that holds onto this one moment. It's like, no, that's called anxiety in the moment. Like, yeah, time keeps, you know, time keeps going and time keeps changing. So the only thing that is constant is change. So we get to move through those moments, just like you mentioned, and then to women have that awareness, like you're just saying, it's constantly going to be there. Yeah. So now you shared a one, like recent one, what about one that you might
be able to share from a client's perspective without like saying their name? Yeah. To be honest, I haven't had a client that dealt with like romantic relationship anxiety, but I did have one that dealt with a regular relationship and it was a coworker and it still absolutely applies to the dating world and to people in relationships. And
It was this idea where she was constantly nervous to go into work and constantly like, like thinking of it as other problems, like, I just hate my commute. Right. And like, was very anxious about the commute. But at the end of the day, she wasn't anxious about the commute itself. She was anxious about getting to work to be with that coworker. And we really
Molly Connolly (16:04.302)
started to dive through it and it ended up being that she has had past experiences that made her feel a certain way. And this coworker was reflecting things about herself back onto her. yeah, near work. Exactly. And that's what was causing a lot of this anxiety. And it's still something that she's working through. But it's something to be very aware of, too, when it comes to
not only anxiety, but other emotions like being annoyed or being angry or being those types of feelings like pissed off at someone. A lot of times it's like a trauma that has affected us and made us feel like we have to identify a certain way, a way that does not sound nice or pleasing. And so when other people bring that up, bring that out of us,
we're instantly triggered with anger or with anxiety or with uncomfortableness. And until we can recognize that, until we could get like super aware of the fact that, I'm not angry at her, I'm being triggered by something that I need to still work on and I need to work through. That's when you'll start to see a big difference in like these patterns that we were talking about.
yeah. Mirror work is so important. I feel like a lot. I mean, I know that you and I both are in the space of like coaching and we all have our own mirrors every single day. Like I can speak for moments where I see, I like to share this one of like when I go grocery shopping with Brad and we both have hangry moments. And so when I see him be like, leave the ketchup, we're going. And I'm like, he's really hangry.
I can see that without him knowing, like even expressing that he's hungry, but like that's a very basic mirror moment because I'm like, when I'm frustrated in this, he'll be like, do you need a Snickers as a joke? And we become, when you're in a relationship, you get to see these mirrors happen. And when you are open and vulnerable, you can communicate those, which is another part of.
Molly Connolly (18:22.03)
anxious dating, then when it goes into like anxiety in relationships, cause it's a whole different level. And it's so nice that you shared another aspect because I don't think even we think about it as, relationships are just romantic or what and instead can be applied to so many different areas of our life and open us up to ways to heal internally and work on our mindset. So actually before we get into any of the tips, like
What are some of the mindset things or topics that you discuss with your clients around anxiety? Yeah. So a big one is this shift from victimhood to an empowered mindset. And a lot of people get triggered when they hear the word victim. They think, I'm not a victim. I don't act like a victim. Like I don't tell people I'm a victim, but a lot of that victim mindset comes from our subconscious. Right. And when we feel anxiety all the time,
are subconsciously, we're looking for things in our life to support that belief that we're an anxious person. And it ends up putting us in this place of not being in control and giving our power away. And that's where this victim mindset comes from, where it's like, I'm just anxious, so I can't do that, or I'm anxious, so I'm not going to respond to them. Right? Like things like that. So
something I talk about a lot is shifting, recognizing first where when you're in that place of victim mindset and how you could shift to an empowered one, one that makes you feel in control. For example, like maybe I am experiencing anxiety, but I can do this. I do have control over this one thing. This is something that I can do, right? Like shifting from this place of like, I can't do that to, okay, well, I still can do other things.
So that is a huge one. Awesome. I like how you even just described a victimhood. Like you are correct. There's a lot of people that don't even like that word because they think of it as something completely traumatic. Not to like diss on anyone or like downplay trauma. But I really appreciate you going through that part. Now, even when you were saying like having control over one thing, it made me almost think of like
Molly Connolly (20:45.87)
how interrelated dating anxiety might be to like social anxiety. Are there any examples or any like moments that you could even just like show how those are related maybe either through your experience or a client that you had? Yeah, well, I used to have a belief that I had an experience from my childhood that I could pinpoint like that.
Molly Connolly (00:00.398)
I just felt like very insecure about my intelligence. I felt dumb, I felt less than. And so it created anxiety in me for years after that. And so I started having major social anxiety because I always thought someone was gonna ask me something that I didn't know the answer to. Or that I was gonna come off like an idiot. Or that people were gonna make fun of me. People are gonna laugh at me because I said something weird.
And so I used to, even with my friends, I would get like nauseous before I'd hang out with my best friends. Nauseous, like crazy. And I would like not tell people if I was going to go to an event or not. Like I would wait till the last minute. My friends would get so mad at me. They're like, you can't do this. Like this is like, you got to decide like you're being rude. Right? Like, and it was all coming from this anxiousness in me.
from this idea that I'm gonna be humiliated. Right. Right? Like all, like from that experience. And so again, I would either not show up or I would decide at the last minute or I would show up and I would panic the whole time. The whole time there would be conversations where I didn't even hear what was being said because I was just in my head and I was so tense and so uncomfortable. And like,
someone's gonna say something and I'm gonna be, I'm gonna be so embarrassed, right? Like I just kept having that in my head. And the same thing goes for dating. Like a lot of people panic, like I said before, like what if I say something stupid? What if they don't like my job? What if they don't like this or that? Like, what if they don't like the way that I respond? All of those things and people just get so...
tense in their body and so nervous. And I say body because the majority of the time we think it's all in our head, but a lot of anxiety is in our body. And that's what nervous system regulation is. It's showing your body that you are safe and that you are calm. And that's the most important thing to do when you're feeling anxious. Yeah. And that makes sense too. Like we're going to get into the tips and I've seen some of your tips. I've actually done a few of them, but like,
Molly Connolly (02:23.95)
When I think about how I moved from being really anxious in my dating life, like, I'm going to just be honest, like I still sometimes say that I'm an introvert, but I'm an introvert until I get to know someone. And then I become extroverted because I'm allowed to like, you know, go through those anxious thoughts of, are they really going to like me as a friend? Are they really going to like me as a business partner? Are they really going to, you know, even just like with your own clients, like sometimes it's like, you know, are we really going to make a good match? Are they going to like me? Like,
Those thoughts come and go all the time. And when you get used to, you know, regulating your system and working on your mindset, like those, like obviously what you do goes hand in hand. We can then come back, do the inner work and become, you know, aware and accept ourselves to then do the things. Like I know we haven't touched on this yet, but, and I didn't even actually tell you I want to, but like the ugly self -care stuff.
So it's one of those where like, yes, people probably are like, self -care is bubble baths. And I'm like, self -care can be a lot of things. Like it can be, you know, checking on your finances and if you're, you know, meal planning, whatever. So how do you work with clients, like with, with anxiety and just in general on those, like ugly self -care things that you like to do? Yeah. Yeah. So
Kind of like how you explained it, like ugly self -care, I say that because I've seen so many Instagram accounts that are aesthetically pleasing and just beautiful and these girls and their perfect matching sets and, you know, like self -care. But what I discovered on my journey is the moments where I felt like I worked through the hardest parts of my life and had major changes and major progress.
I was like doing deep mindset work, like working through things from my past, things that were like ugly, I would be like sobbing, I wouldn't be, I'd be like on my couch and like ugly clothes, like I wouldn't be like dressed up in makeup and like, you know, going to the spa or something like that deeper work requires moments of vulnerability and uncomfortableness and something that
Molly Connolly (04:42.638)
I work a lot on with my clients, which ultimately is mindset work is this idea of going back and thinking about your past experiences, because that's where the anxiety started. It started from a traumatic experience in your past that triggered this feeling in your body and triggered this belief of whatever it is, right? Like maybe for
someone that is experiencing a lot of dating anxiety, it's like, I'm not good enough for anyone. Right. And so something that I work on with my clients would be like, okay, when was the first experience that you could think of where you felt that way as a child? Like first thing that comes to mind and we'll go from there and kind of like reframe this belief and reframe this idea and acknowledge that things are different now. It's not the same experience as it was back then.
Right. And how can you, how can you show yourself that like, what evidence do you have that it's different, right? Things like that, that we work on. And then the nervous system regulation is huge. So things like breath work, meditation, movement, and we'll get more into that in the tips, but that is huge because our, our anxiety is coming from.
this subconscious and the way that we communicate with that is through our body, not our thoughts, which a lot of people don't realize. A lot of people think that they could just think their way out of anxiety, say a million, say a million affirmations, you know, follow some positive, Instagram accounts, things like that. And I'm not downplaying any of that. All that is helpful is helpful in supporting a good mindset and supporting a certain type of lifestyle. Very important.
but the way that you can actually change your belief system is through this nervous system regulation, which is all through subconscious bodywork movement. That makes sense. I mean, it really does because when I think of the times like in my past where I was told, just think a certain way or repeat the operations. And the more I have become really interested in neuroscience, like
Molly Connolly (07:03.63)
Especially if we are really connected to someone, which is part of where our beliefs come from. Like let's say if our parents told us like five times that we're stupid, we are going to believe that because it came from someone we loved. Right. And that's going to be a trigger, a trauma or whatever you want to talk about it, how it grows as we grow up and whatnot. But you can sit there and say affirmations of I'm not stupid. I'm smart. I'm smart. And it takes.
so much longer. I think there was a study that said it takes almost 250 times, not only of saying the affirmation, but feeling it in your body as true to make your body know that it's true and it's safe. And so like doing the movements that you do helps like almost accelerate that process because it overrides eventually will override this mindset and those beliefs. So now that we're here, let's get into the tips that
I mean, you have kind of already mentioned, but like, let's get into them. Yeah. So one of them is breath work. And one of my favorite kinds of breath work is diaphragmatic breaths. So if you put your hand on your belly, when you do diaphragmatic breath, you're doing a deeper breath. So when you breathe, when you breathe in, your belly should expand. And then right now, when you and then when you breathe out,
your hand should be pushing it.
So it's a way to take deeper, longer breaths and get more oxygen into your body. And this calms your nervous system and essentially tells your body you are safe and you can be calm, right? Another one is a little bit more movement, either swaying, and you don't even have to move your feet for this, just like standing on the ground, flat -footed.
Molly Connolly (09:00.398)
swaying back and forth. Sometimes I will recommend my clients put their hand on their heart and like take deep breaths while they do it or give themselves a hug. And swaying is cool because it replicates being rocked as a baby. wow. Yeah but again it's all these nervous system regulating practices. They all are telling your body you're safe essentially.
essentially the same purpose. But yeah, that one's pretty cool for that reason. And another one that I love before a date actually is listening to call music while you're in your room. I totally agree with that. I'm sorry to interrupt you. But I believe music for sure is a huge impact on our mindset and our emotions. So like, I haven't made a podcast episode about it, but like listening to music that were like,
you know, I hate this guy, men suck or like crying music. Yeah. I'm like, stay away from that. Yeah. Uplifting music, but still not like screw men. But like even just like you said, calming music. It's really empowering at the same time. Yeah. Sorry, you keep going now. I just wanted to know. No, I love that. And that's so true. And with that humming.
is actually another nervous system regulating practice. Wow. Yeah, which a lot of people don't realize. I actually shared this the other day in my story. My grandma had Alzheimer's, dementia. She barely spoke, but she would hum all the time. And I remember my mom saying, it's keeping her calm. It's keeping her in like a relaxed place. Like even though she might not know what's going on or she's not gonna speak.
Right? Like she still was like self -regulating and that was like so cool to recognize like after I've been doing all this work. But yeah, a lot of people don't realize that like it's a lot of these are really easy practices that you don't have to take a lot of time out of your day to do, which is pretty cool. You know that before we go on the next one, like when you said humming, like it reminds me.
Molly Connolly (11:14.83)
And like now it kind of escaped my thought pattern here, but like when people meditate and do like, ohm and you can feel it vibrating to your body. Like what are the vibration? Yeah. But what's the other, do you remember what those are called? Like, is it mantras? What is it? Like there's certain types of ways of meditating. Like it's not just ohm. There's so many other little ones where you can feel the difference. And like, I know that there's different frequencies. I know I'm totally like.
going blank here, but you know what I mean? Like I am too. Okay. I know what you're talking about though. All right. You're you go back and tell me more tips. Another one is shaking, like literally just shaking your body out. And something that I like to do is just like go like start at like just my hand, then like add an arm and then just shake out your whole body. I used to do that before races.
Like I would get nervous. So people, if they haven't listened to the podcast before, I used to be competitive swimmer in college. And the only way I could get myself for not throwing up before a certain event was like literally shaking my arms and like jumping. And my coach was like, you need to stop exerting energy. And I'm like, I'm going to throw up. Like, I don't think you understand. And did you like realize what you were actually doing? Like not.
Probably not. I mean, I had been doing it for a really long time. So probably not until actually now that I think about it. I don't think I really had a grasp until I returned to swimming in my upper thirties competitively. And I was like, what am I doing this for? Other times I'd be like, I'm doing the movements to get my arms loosened up. And other times I'm like, why am I frantically like shaking my entire body? And people are looking at me like I'm crazy. Yeah. So I asked that because a lot of times
people will do these like practices, but not even realizing why they're doing them. And it's just like your body knows, like your body knows that it makes you feel safe. And so you're doing them, which is pretty crazy. For sure is yes. Keep going. No, I'm trying to think. Another one is heel drops. If you just like go on your tippy toes and down again. Really? Yeah. Yeah, a lot, a lot of movement.
Molly Connolly (13:36.046)
Simple, simple. Even dancing, you were saying? Yep. Yep. Dancing, walking. Yeah, all of these things. And when people experience daily anxiety too, and this is something people could do like before a date or whenever they're experiencing it in the moment, I always say start with like 10 minutes.
start with like two practices for 10 minutes. It doesn't have to be hard. It doesn't have to be like this big thing you need to schedule. And a lot of times people are like, well, where am I going to do this? You could do it in the bathroom. You could do it in your room. You could do it laying on your bed, right? Like make it simple, but it makes a big difference. And all of these scientifically proven to calm your body down and in doing so releasing those anxious.
feelings that you feel like you're like stuck to in these moments. Yeah. And that brings out a good point too. Like, so even if you're anxious in the date, you can be like, I'm going to go use the restroom and you could like, exactly hum or like shake your hands, be like, I'm just, they're freezing. I'm just going to move things around. Well, you know, another one that I didn't mention is cold therapy. And that is a perfect example. What I'm like, God, no, no.
Again, doesn't have to be like crazy. This is something you could do on a date. Like you said, you go to the bathroom, you just run cold water on your wrist. That's it. Okay. Just do it for a little bit. That's a great one for a date. If you're like, let me just go to the bathroom, calms you down a little bit. Okay, that's good. I'm thinking of like plunging and I'm like, no, that's not for me. That's like the extreme version. Yeah.
Awesome. Well, Marie, I loved all the things that you've shared today. Like there's so much, like I hope women either have paused this episode or decide that they're going to come back and take some notes. And I can't wait. Tell the ladies like where they can find you and any other information of what you have coming up. Yeah. So I'm mainly on Instagram at the dot empowered dot millennial and on TikTok it's just at the empowered millennial.
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And then I'm also re -recording a masterclass that I recently hosted that went so well. The women on there loved it. So it's the strategies and stories behind the transformation that I've made. And it's basically stories and how I got to the place I am now from being at this point of having everyday anxiety. So I wanted to do this because a lot of people share, you know, where they are now.
the lifestyle that people want to live, but a lot of people can't relate and they think, maybe they haven't had the lows that I've had though. So I share a lot of the lows that I've experienced and how I've used them to get to this point, how I've used them as tools to bring me through this journey of self -healing and self -care. So yeah, so I'm rerecording that and I am going to be...
sharing that with my audience soon. So stay tuned for that. fantastic. And we're going to keep all get all of Maria's information and put in the show notes so that if for some reason you're driving and you were like, what is that again? Yes. The empowered millennial is where you can find around Instagram with two dots between the and at the end of millennial or empowered, whatever. Yeah. You got it. So don't listen to me. It's in the show notes.
All right, well, thank you so much, Maria. I really hope you enjoyed your time here and maybe we can do this again with something else with anxiety going forward. Who knows? Yeah, that'd be great. Thank you so much for having me.